Then three things matter more than anything else.
Tell your contractor your dates now. Asking the crew to skip a Friday or wrap early for a party is a fair thing to want. Just know what it costs, because trades are booked in sequence. If the tile crew misses their window, their next opening might be nine days out, and everyone scheduled behind them moves too. Tell us early and we can usually build around it. Tell us that morning and usually we cannot.
Know which weeks you leave. Most homeowners can live in the house during a remodel, but plan to be out for demolition and flooring, roughly 2 to 3 weeks. If the project takes your only bathroom, you are moving out. If you can, keep those weeks off the holiday calendar.
Be realistic about the big meal. On a kitchen remodel, we look for somewhere else in the house to plug in the refrigerator, then set up a folding table with a microwave and the coffee maker, often near a laundry sink where dishes can get washed. One family added a rug and a small dining table in the garage, and we hung their old 1970s dining room chandelier over it. Glamping in their own garage.
That setup gets a family through breakfast before school. It is not where a holiday dinner gets cooked. In Crush Expectations, Scott calls losing daily access to your kitchen probably the most inconvenient remodel to live through, second only to the primary bathroom. If your kitchen is torn out in November, plan the big meal somewhere else this year.
Build a cushion between the end of construction and the day guests arrive.
Here is why. On a 2,800 square foot project in Chandler, we moved the kitchen out to the garage so the family could stay in the house, and put the laundry back online every Friday so life kept working. We told them nine to ten weeks. It took twelve. A schedule with no cushion before a holiday is a schedule that assumes nothing goes long.